In this clip she judges the way Angela(Michaela Conlin) gave birth and says "Everyone has to make their own choices, is what I believe, but you seem like a nice person, your child should be fine." after Angela tells her she had and epidural and was screaming. That is so very not right! We don't judge! Angela thought her birthing process was beautiful and in the end that's all that matters, is what the mother thinks of her birth not anyone else.
Then the way he steered Daisy into the office for her appointment and ignoring her obvious want for Angela to be with her is just insane. The mother makes those choices!
Later in the Episode when Daisy's water breaks in the lab she says asks "Will someone remind them that Valentina wants a darkened room and bird sounds?" It doesn't matter what Valentina wants! Again it is about what the mother wants! A doula sure can suggest that dim lighting and nature sounds might be soothing for you but ultimately it is for the mother to decide what will soothe her during her labor.
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In the end Daisy stands up for herself and tells Valentina that she doesn't want all these things and fires her. Honestly, she should have interviewed more doulas! Valentina just wasn't her doula, or in my opinion very professional at all. Thankfully Daisy was surrounded by those that loved and supported her most for her beautiful journey into motherhood. So if you watched this episode please know this is not what a doula is! A doula is a loving, support person, a person who educates and empowers, listens and respects you the goddess giving birth. A doula supports your decisions and how you want to give birth and who you want with you when you give birth.
